Contributing in the Home

Last week I posted of our sweet friend and team member, Gina passing away suddenly. We are in the grieving process. As a dear friend said, " Two steps forward, three steps back. This ache is going to be here a while... I am sad today."

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Wonderful info about parenting below...

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Developmental area: Character

An important way to develop character qualities you desire for your child is by having him contribute in the home. He is at an age where he is capable of having responsibilities, yet he might not take the initiative to contribute. Finding a suitable routine of responsibilities will not only help you as a parent, but will help him develop character and feel like a contributing member of the household.

Have realistic expectations for your child when it comes to contributing in the home. Discuss what areas of responsibility you want him to cover, and show him how you want those tasks to be completed. For example, make a list of your child's morning routine: 1. Get dressed 2. Wash face 3. Brush teeth 4. Make bed. Whatever the routine, a list will help him know what is expected and will help him be accountable for his responsibilities. Using a responsibility chart for weekly tasks can help remind your child and hold him accountable for the chores he is responsible for on a weekly basis.

Many times, a child will want an allowance for tasks completed around your home. If you choose to give an allowance, separate those tasks that are for pay and those that are done because he is a contributing member of the family. Both types of responsibilities are important because your child needs to know that being part of a community requires contribution that does not require payment. Communication of expectations, encouragement of completion, and praise for jobs well done will help your child take the initiative to contribute successfully in your home.